Monday 18 May 2015

A moment of silence - a degree has now been completed


I think the title of this post says it all – three years of planning, writing to-do lists and constantly trying to balance my time completing deadlines whilst working part-time and socialising has now come to an end. I am no longer a student (well technically I am until Graduation but still).

I would like to clarify a widely held view.  Yes, university is a life-changing experience. I am certainly not the same 18 year old who gathered up her belongings to set up camp for 9 months in Halls, as I’m sure many of you can relate to.  It provides you with the confidence and independence to live on your own and start a career.

I figured this celebratory moment of no more essays and stationary expenditure (the amount of note pads I’ve bought is quite ridiculous) deserved its own post as it’s quite a big deal really. I’m now going to attempt to share with you the top 10 changes I have experienced (some clichés may be hard to avoid sorry!) whilst offering advice to those of you who are starting uni in September. Here we go.

 
 


1.       I like that, I don’t like that

-          When I left school I thought I knew myself, but in hindsight I was naïve in some ways. I was more susceptible to people’s influence, and felt nervous questioning things and stating my opinion. University has made me more direct and assertive. Mid-year 2 I began to occupy the moto “if you don’t ask you don’t get”. It’s important to go after what you want, especially in terms of your career. Take every opportunity you can and be open to new possibilities.


2.       Learn what makes you stress

-          This is something I wish I had paid more careful attention to in Year 2 when the workload picked up. My body does not respond well to stress, so I encourage you to think about your possible stress triggers and find ways of dealing with them. This could be through regular exercise and healthy eating – join the gym (use your loan!), join a sports team or society, and make time for relaxation and socialising.  
 

3.       Taking on too much

-          It can be easy to think because you’re only in uni 8 hours a week that you can take on anything! (I thought this in year 3) But only take on as much as you can handle. We don’t want you having a meltdown! My advice would be to do more volunteering and part-time work in year 1 and 2, as that is when you had more free time, rather than year 3 as this is when uni work needs to be a priority.


4.       Save up!

-          Words cannot describe the feelings of ecstatic joy and sadness when I reached the unbearable realisation that I had just received my last student loan. It remains a daunting realisation (1 month later…) as the government will no longer be supporting you. You’re now an adult who has to fend for yourself. Therefore, if you can, get a part-time job throughout uni and during the summer and save your money, so that you aren’t worrying about money in third year.


5.       You appreciate the necessities

-          Living on my own has made me appreciate the necessities: gas, electric and water. Being responsible for paying the bills has been one of my biggest learning experiences.


6.       Helpful apps!

-          Some apps in particular have been my savour on nights out in London, I encourage you to get them – City Mapper, Uber taxis and Bus London.
 

7.       You’ll find your passion

-          Remember that hobby you used to do when you were younger? That may remerge and you’ll realise how much you loved it. For me that was writing. I view writing as a form of self-expression and find that it helps me get it all out; my worries, fears and aspirations.


8.       Acceptance

-          Life doesn’t always pan out the way you want it to. This is something I’m currently coming to terms with and it isn’t easy, especially when applying for jobs. It’s about learning how to be open to the opportunities life brings and not forcing things to happen if they’re not meant to.


9.       Friends

-          Moving away, being in a different environment, going out – you are bound to lose people along the way but you will also meet new people. I’m lucky enough to have established a close group of friends who are loyal, supportive and are always there to put a smile on my face! These are the people I want to give my time to because they appreciate me. Thanks guys

 
10.   Confidence

-          Thought I’d save the best till last, which relates back to the first point. Because you know yourself more, your confidence will increase. University will push you to be independent and take on more responsibilities. You will continuously meet new, different people who will teach you more about yourself.


 
 
I have left university with not only a vast knowledge in my subject, Events Management, but with new friends and a new attitude of acceptance, openness and ambition. The world is your oyster! Good luck to all of you who are starting University in September! Remember to just be yourself and remember my wise words in the process ;)